The emojis you send to your group chat suddenly become loaded with new meaning when it comes to texting someone you’re into, am I right?
Whether you’re in a brand-new relationship and discovering everything you can about your new boo, or sexting your long-term partner, emojis take on a whole new meaning when sex is on the table.
Margarida Rafael, PsyD, resident relationship expert at Adore Passion, loves emojis in texts and highly recommends them when sexting, especially in new relationships. “It is a way to sexually discover each other outside of the bedroom, and even to talk about fetishes and interests that you may be shy to discuss face to face especially in the early stages of a relationship,” she says. It’s not always easy to tell a new partner exactly what you want in the bedroom, so why not let emojis do the job?
Well, so long as you both attribute the same meanings to emojis…. Research from the University of Minnesota shows different people can have different meanings for the same emoji. Which makes sense. They don’t exactly come with definitions, after all.
That said, when it comes to sexting, while a little room for interpretation can be a good thing, it’s helpful if you and your partner associate the same meanings to emojis (otherwise things might get awkward, fast). So yeah, might be time to brush up on the sexy hidden meanings behind those tiny icons everyone loves so much.
Ahead, your officially unofficial (or unofficially official?) glossary of sexting emojis.
This one *ahem* is a way to quite literally ask someone if they want to bone (do it, eff, get down, get it on, do the dirty, or have sex, if you will). Sending this with a question mark is a quick and easy way to ask for a hookup.
Use this pic to express that you want to heat things up. Discussing a move with your partner that you can’t wait to show off later tonight? Send this to emphasize just how spicy the evening’s about to be. You can also use this as a reaction, or in response to a proposition or question to indicate that you want things taken up a notch (or five).
Unlike the cherry which symbolizes sexual inexperience, the strawberry means you’re ripe and ready to go for it. As in you’re DTF right this second.
Do I even need to spell this one out? The purple veggie symbolizes a penis—a well-endowed one, at that. Use only when applicable (which hopefully is often…), or when you really want to flatter the recipient.
Also a peen, but a less…impressive one. This emoji represents a smaller, thinner dick, so perhaps don’t sext with it.
Do, however, feel free to use it in group chats with your friends when they ask the inevitable Q about your latest hookup.
I like to think of this eggplant alternative as less of a noun and more of a verb. As in: “I can’t wait to rip off your clothes and have at it.”
The definitely overused emoji for the butt, booty, ass, bottom, etc.
Some use it to signify a vagina, too, but there are better sexting emojis for that one. (See next…)
A vagina. In particular, one that you should stuff (possibly with meat, as pictured). Ya know, like, now.
Tbh, I’m not sure how or when the sushi-vagina association became a thing. Was it Drake? (“I love your sushi rolls / Hotter than wasabi.”) Or was it before that?
Who knows, but either way, somehow the sushi emoji translates to the vagina.
Doesn’t this cookie look like a vagina? At least in sexting world, it does.
There’s the obvious wiener in the middle, and then the bun around it. Some save this emoji for anal-sex references, but some would argue vaginas sorta looks like buns, too. So your call.
You can thank Lil Wayne for this one. Send the lolli emoji, ideally with a tongue or lips emoji, and you’re saying, “Not only do I wanna lick you like a lollipop, I’m GONNA lick you like a lollipop.”
“I want to hump you.” But, like, in a cute way.
When your spark is so intense, it’s electric, send this emoji. You’re basically saying, “Let’s bang like thunder and make it rain.”
When you’re super attracted to your partner, the flame emoji tells them that 1) they’re so hot, they’re on fire, and 2) your loins are burning. Because no one would say that last bit in 2020, save for in an erotic novel.
As close to an orgasm as an emoji can get. Simple, but effective.
Scissors: a specific and steamy sex position, worth whipping out when your person asks, “What do you want to do later?”
Follow this one with a wink or smirk face, and you’re setting yourself up for some serious shower sex. Legit q: Does anyone use the shower emoji for anything else?
“Get over here and nail me.”
Cancer Zodiac Sign
Sorry, Cancers, but you’ve got to be used to this by now. The symbol, which is actually an abstract depiction of a crab (the more ya know), looks like the 69 position—making it a go-to emoji for sexting.
Forget that the person in this bed is sleeping—there isn’t exactly an emoji with rumpled sheets and a sex pillow. My favorite is to pair the bed with a bunch of tools to say, “Let’s break the bed tonight.” Mmm…
Not an obvious sexting emoji, or a very commonly used one, but I’d like to change that. This guy could easily mean “Hop on this ride and I’ll turn your world upside down.” (Sexy, right?)
Finger Pointing Up
Do you like being fingered? (You should…) Use this particular hand emoji when you want your partner to get frisky with just their hands. Feel free to pair it with the taco…or peach, if you dare.
Ah, the original sexmoji? The wink face can be used in non-sexting context, too, when you’re cracking a joke, but more often than not, this little face is suggestive. As in: Let’s do it.
I think this is intended to be an innocent emoji (but then again, aren’t they all?), but it works way better as a sex play. One use: “Sex party!” But one other? “I’mma blow you until you see confetti.”
“I’m so turned on, I’m drooling over here.”
Or, a little more X-rated, particularly when it’s coming from him: your post-BJ face.
“I’m a good girl”—JK JK JK JK JK JK.
Pair it with the eggplant, cherries, banana, carrot, taco (you get it) and you’re promising a passion-filled night of oral. xoxo
A sexting must-have, for so many different occasions. It conveys, “I want to lick your [insert noun here].”
This one isn’t so obvious, but trust me, it works in context (read: you should have a sexting convo already in the works before sending). It has a simple meaning: “I’m horny.”
Again, “I’m horny.” But also, devilish…or a freak in the sheets.
Hiding Monkey Face
Use it when your partner says something so erotic, you can’t help but blush…and smile, of course.
Mind-blowing, earth-shattering sex, right this way.
You could use these for gym selfies, but beads of sweat work even better for sexting. Because sweat, as you should know, is a common byproduct of a hard-core romp.
Plus, they can also mean any bodily fluid, like semen or squirting. So use them often…
My preference over the wink (it’s less…creepy-looking), this smiley is basically the “I want to f*ck you” face in emoji form. (No, just mine?)
“Shh…this convo is so NSFW, let’s keep it private.” (Read: Don’t screenshot it and send it to your friends.
Okay, so technically this one is called the “Hugging Face,” but does anyone use it for that? To me, it means, “I’m so freaking excited for what’s about to come.” (Come being the operative word.)
I love this one for those flirty conversations that recap an awesome sex sesh. It’s a fun way to say, “That was out of this world.”
Whip this out when your convo about oral could use some visual aids.
Text this one next to the finger and you’re basically back in middle school, doing the old finger-in-the-hole hand signal for penetrative sex.
This emoji takes care of the three words that aren’t so sexy unless they’re conveyed by someone you’re ridiculously attracted to: “Let’s make babies.”
Alright, to be fair, the Merman is a relatively new addition to the emoji family. But between the shirtless body and the phallic trident, those major Spartacus/Hercules vibes are a turn-on.
It works well as a “Let’s fork” proposal, but it can be silly enough to play it off as a joke (in case, ya know, you’re rejected).
11 Sexts to Send Your Man Using Emojis
Let’s Talk About Sex
You and your guy have recently started dating and after weeks of intense foreplay and in the words of the famous singer Marvin Gaye you’re ready to get it on. Nothing says let’s talk about sex than sending him images of the birds and the bees.
Third Base Part One
You and your S.O. will never think about peaches the same way again after sending this sext.
Third Base Part Two
You and your S.O. will never think about eggplant (aka: aubergine) the same way again after sending this sext.
You’re half way through your day and all you can think about is tearing off your man’s clothes the moment he gets home. Give him a heads up and let him know what awaits him after work “ time to get busy!
Oral Sex For Him
Giving head to him.
Oral Sex For You
When he goes “downtown”.
Assume The Position
The astrological signs for Aries, Sagittarius and Cancer have been taken to a whole different level; time for the two of you to get into position. Horizontal shuffle indeed!
For our ladies who have an exhibitionist streak running through their veins, tell him you want to throw down é la Kim Kardashian style in the bedroom “ minus the sex tape scandal. You’re ready to make a feature film together for your eyes only.
Fifty Shades of Grey
When you want to live out a few scenes from E.L. James’ hit novel Fifty Shades of Grey send him this.
Sex On Your Mind
When your hormones are in overdrive nothing says that you need some serious lovin’ than including images of these four-legged creatures from the animal kingdom.
Who says taking a shower will cool you down? As the rapper Nelly would say It’s getting hot in herre!